Parents: our biggest problem or our second largest asset? Les Howie Jamie Houchen
Parents: our biggest problem or our second largest asset? Albert Einstein to Hollywood stars!!! English culture FA RESPECT Programme Why Children play How can parents help Take home message!
They lend us the most valuable thing in their life! Massive influence on the player They can help with preparation And be a volunteer Parents: -benefits
FA RESPECT All experts-years of experience! Working Class sport Easy access Everyone plays..everyone is an expert! Two things you can t criticise an Englishman on are?
Why Respect? Concern from the top of the game and from the grass roots Abuse towards referees, a lack of referees in the grass roots game and poor sideline behaviour particularly in youth football Two high profile incidents in the Premier League in March 2008 Parents/Coaches and Players told us Enough is enough A tipping point had been reached in public tolerance
When the beautiful game turns ugly. Polegate youth game ends in violence The 15-year-old player was then set upon and thrown to the floor by a 24- year-old Southwick linesman. He threw Reed to the ground before another Southwick player, who had earlier been sent off was said to have run back on to the field and kicked the Polegate player in the head. The junior football final wrecked by parents brawling in the stand Police had to be called to a junior football match after a 'Wild West-style' brawl involving dozens of parents broke out.the fighting began after a woman threw beer over another parent, and spread from the touchline to the stand. A 15-year-old player was handcuffed and led away for questioning by officers after the referee took both teams off the pitch. As the boy's mother came over to protect her child, a punch was thrown at her before she was spat in the face.
Professional Game Encourage the Referee to manage conflict in the game Implement Law 12 No need for new Laws Captain taking more responsibility Pre-match briefing meeting with referee & managers/captains Team handshake before kick-off Removal of TV monitors from the technical area National Game Encourage Referees to implement Law 12 Respect Codes of conduct Designated Spectators Areas FF Scheme Captain taking more responsibility Use of Armbands Sign up of Leagues Campaignmaterial Ray Winstone and Fabio Capello Educational Material Senior leagues in the National League System adopted the majority of measures identified for the Professional Game.
Respect Update Referees recruitment is up by 8% on 2008/09 26,000 FAMOA survey of 3200 Referees has provided useful guidance on Referee s opinions of Respect Winning vs. Development Realistic expectations
Respect Update Respect Leagues There are 670 Leagues that have signed up for Respect and 203 of these are currently considered by the CFA to be fully implementing the Respect measures. The focus of CFA s work is to work with all Leagues so that they are fully operational. The FA Chief Executive has written to all Respect leagues and those yet to sign up requesting their commitment Production of Certificates for supportive Leagues
Youth Football -Why Respect? What do we want from Football for our children? Fun and Fitness A lifetime of experiences Teach Life skills and values The wrong environment may lead to the wrong values We collectively need to act!
Dealing with the RTPs Education -what is acceptable and unacceptable behaviour Hosting of Parents Evening Adoption of Codes of Conduct Use of sanctions Role of captains to support Referees Respect Handshake create a Respectful environment Introduction of Designated Spectator areas Appointment of Field Marshalls to pass around code of conduct to visiting supporters and to remind those that are infringing the code. Report poor behaviour when it takes place
Why do children play? I love playing football because it's fun 78 I like meeting new friends through football 75 It's a really good game and I love it! 70 Trying my hardest is more important to me than winning 69 It helps keep me fit and healthy 67 I like playing matches against other teams 61 I like playing with my friends 54 I like learning new skills 40 I really like scoring or stopping goals 26 It's important to me I try to win matches 21 I like skilling people 10 I play because it makes my parents happy 7 It's important to me I win the league 0 I like to show off my skills 0 Winning is more important to me than trying my hardest 0
What do we want from parents? 2 minutes chat with person to your left
How can parents help? 2 minutes chat with the person to your right
So here s the Question? When s the last time you held a parents meeting When did you last explain to parents how they should behave When did you last take action against 1 of your parents What example do you model Do you fully utilise parents
Any questions?
Its not just the other team!! Communication is 2 way Its everyone s responsibility No action is not an option We can turn a negative in to a positive-pull in the same direction! Take Home